The Misconception

THE MISCONCEPTION😑

Listen, it is true that as believers the goal of every godly relationship is a happy marriage. That is our focus. That is the reason why we start a relationship when we feel we are ready to work through one. That is why we are trying so hard to check for comparability, to fit into each other's lives. Marriage is, and remains the long term plan. But hey, not all relationships are meant to end up there, no matter how good it is. This might be kinda hard for you to understand i know, but I think it is time you learn to accept this truth.
Many times God plants people in our life to be our "HELP KEEP" for a season. That is, an HELP to KEEP us going strong through some challenging periods of our life, not for a lifetime.
God plants us
in the life of people to be the help they need. God uses us as an instrument to touch the life of people; to Love them, cherish them, take care of them, trust them, help them stand on their feet and empty ourselves to them, all with the hope that in the end it's going to end in marriage, but it doesn't always end there.
Oh it's tough I know. I cannot downplay the fact that it hurts to hear the other builder say "I am not doing again". It's hard to build with a man in the hope of spending the rest of your life together only for him to go be with another woman who doesn't even know half his story.
I know it's hard to sponsor a girl through school or business only for her to sit up one day, look you in the face and say she's too good for you. I know it's hard to go through the struggles of life together only for your parents to say "we don't like his tribe", "we don't like her religion".
I know it's hard to give a man your financial support only to see him with someone else when his goals are achieved. It hurts like crazy, i know, it cuts like hell to invest in someone and see your sacrifice wasted, and see someone else reaping what you worked so hard for. The time, the energy, the resource... And many times we regret ever doing what we did for them, you curse and hate yourself for being so dumb and foolish.
But hey! Never feel depressed about being the reason why somebody is where they are and who they are today.
Don't regret any good relationship that never led to marriage. You were only an instrument God used to bless them at the point where they needed the lift. You were a channel through which they could rise. You have played your part, you have done your job, you're not the HELP MEET who you thought you were, you're not the one who is meant to be with them for a lifetime, you're their HELP KEEP for a season, your job was to help them get ready for someone else or something else, so see it as a sacrifice, when the relationship ends move on, you have fulfilled your role in their life, you have been the support God planned for you to be.
And this is the best part;
Our God is a fair judge, He will not allow you go through a season of planting without a harvest. There is someone out there who is preparing your Eve to be a HELP MEET for you. There is someone out there who God has planted as a HELP to KEEP your Adam for you. So just relax , all the planting and building you have done will come back to you with right person. Let it hurt, and let it heal.
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